Mothers should not be left alone
While waiting for the details of Mascalucia's terrible filicide to be defined, one thing that applies to everyone: motherhood cannot be lived in solitude. In the absence of that "village" that serves to raise every creature that comes into the world, we need places for new mothers to meet and freely share experiences and experiences. To maximize joy and give rise to feminine and maternal wisdom, the foundation of civilization

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The picture of Mascalucia's filicide is not yet entirely clear: whether the crime was premeditated (the last hug between mother and daughter when leaving kindergarten was heartbreaking), whether the girl was capable of understanding and wanting, whether she acted alone and so on. The investigators will do their job, the court will establish responsibility and punishment, even if no punishment can be greater than that which the mother inflicted on herself with her terrible act.

But one thing applies to all mothers in the world, also for that of Mascalucia: mothers cannot be left alone. This is one completely unnatural condition and potentially risky even just from a psychological point of view for the creature and for the woman who brought it into the world. It takes a village to raise a child, and this village (the family, the community, neighborly relationships, sharing with other mothers) is aan increasingly rare experience. The need is even more acute if there is no father at the mother's side, but not even a father is enough to replace that complex relational fabric that brings the mother into the world in a sort of social gestation, and who accompanies and supports her in her precious task of starting a creature towards life.

The increasingly smaller families, increasingly disintegrated communities, increasingly rarefied relationships - and motherhood hindered at 360°, perhaps as never before in history - signal an urgent and unavoidable need: the one of offer mothers the opportunity to meet, share and share experiences and experiences.

Let's call them by a bad name: maternity homes - there must certainly be a better one - freely accessible, little or not at all institutionalized, equipped with the minimum structures necessary to make them welcoming and comfortable, essentially “self-managed” even if connected to any help services - if necessary - and possibly also frequented by doulas experts in supporting mothers of little ones. Places of relationship and exchange, not of technicalization, medicalization and psychologization of the maternal function (and indeed preserved from the noise of technical words), in which mothers freely share and circulate their wisdom, and do not feel like apprentices in a "trade" regulated by others.

Places where female energy and words circulate in abundance, drawing the maximum possible joy and pleasure from it, and in which to make friends with others not only for the sake of the child. In which, above all, civilization is founded.

We need places like this in every town and in every neighborhood of big cities: will any mayor listen?

Marina Terragni

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